Circumstantially Infertile
Circumstantially Infertile. Yep, I’m Circumstantially Infertile. The grief over not only not being a mother, but now also suffering from feeling ‘less than’ because I just simply hadn’t found love (or mutual love), was at times overwhelming. And as I saw couples younger than I getting sympathy for their biological infertility, I wondered why all I got were accusations of not doing enough, not trying hard enough. Trying too hard. Being too picky. Not being picky enough… And the hardest comment to defend: “You better hurry up!”
My infertility is circumstantial but my life is not barren. And to the women who are on the other side of hope, know that you are more powerful than your womb. You are maternal whether or not maternity ever comes. You are a woman and your love and how you choose to offer and receive it, is a gift.
Thank you, Melanie Notkin, for “getting” it. Some people need to realize that not every woman is lucky or fortunate enough to find the love of her life and give birth to 2+ children (or that it’s perfectly okay for some women to not want children at all).
